World Peace Starts with Inner Peace
In the month of December, the world recognizes the Universal Human Rights of all persons, the betterment of humanity by Nobel Prize winners (Dec 10) and Americans commemorate the ratification of the Bill of Rights (Dec 15).
World peace is a big order. As I pondered this, I flipped through “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff at Work” and Tip #12 caught my attention. “Light a Candle Instead of Cursing the Darkness” was a powerful reminder that peace begins within.
Yet, with everything going on in the world right now, many people seem overwhelmed with emotion and are willing to lash out on just about any topic. Many discussions elicit discontent, dissatisfaction, and soap boxing.
Is this you? If it is, you are doing yourself and everyone you interact with a terrible disservice. You will never find inner peace.
- Set priorities. It’s worth fighting injustice if your child is being bullied at school. If another shopper wants to count four cans of cat food as one item, it makes more sense to be flexible.
- Assume responsibility. Indignation is less tempting when you face how you contributed to the situation. Did you criticize your daughter about her grades when you meant to discuss cleaning up her bedroom?
- Focus on solutions. Unpleasant feelings can be beneficial when they prompt you to take action. Acknowledge your anger, and then concentrate on fixing the situation.
Avoid Getting Hooked
If you are the subject of someone’s vociferous pontificating, use these strategies and avoid getting “hooked”.
- Shift your attention.
Stop feeding your inner flames. Catch yourself when you’re dwelling on the carelessness of your co-workers or how people don’t value your time by starting meetings late. When you are running these stories, change them. Think about your last major accomplishment and how that made you feel.
Here are some great questions that you can ask yourself to manage every conversation. Ask them when you are able to reflect calmly.
- Do I speak with grace?
- When is it best to be silent?
- Why is it important not to blurt out every thought I have?
Integrate New Behaviors
Affirmations are great tools to reinforce new ideas and create new habits. These are designed to help you manage your interactions when you are tempted to get on your soap box.
- I have the strength to tame my tongue. The power of life and death are in my tongue. With my tongue, I choose to build others up, instead of causing harm. I choose to use my tongue to bless others by speaking words of life.
- There is wisdom in silence. I think before I speak. I choose my words carefully, recognizing the power of my speech. I prudently choose my words to affect every person and situation in my life in a positive way.
- I speak with grace. I use respectful language to honor those to whom I speak. I deliver my speech with tact, so others listen to what I have to say. I speak to others the way I would want them to speak to me.
- Today, I choose to speak slowly and consider my choice of words carefully. I consider the effect of my words before I speak them and only speak words that have a positive effect on the minds, hearts, and lives of those around me.
When you manage your internal state and get to a state of peaceful reflection, you will inspire others to be more considerate. You will change the world.