Build Powerful Working Relationships by Reading
Although reading has many obvious benefits, do you realize it can also help you build powerful working relationships by sharpening your conversational skills? If you feel anxious about making small talk or making personal connections with your co-workers, reading can bring you greater confidence. You can also impress people with your ability to carry on interesting conversations, even at gatherings where you don’t know anyone. Reading will expose you to new information that will give you a plethora of subjects to talk about.
Try these strategies for using reading to improve your conversational skills:
- Scan the headlines. When reviewing your morning news briefs, look over the headlines and titles first.
- Whether you get the paper delivered to your house or read the local news online, look over all the article headings. Upon finding a subject that appeals to you, read the article. What do you think about it? Is there anything the article left out? Do you trust the reporting?
- If you believe a topic is interesting and have more questions about it, chances are good that others will, too.
- Read articles and books that interest you. If you already find the subject matter fascinating, you’ll be more likely to remember it once you read it. It just makes good sense to hone in on information or stories that you find fascinating to share in conversations.
- Take note of topics that are currently trending. Popular and current subjects give you a good idea of what people are talking about. If you read the latest updates on those articles, you’ll definitely have something of interest to share with others.
- Plus, trending topics are constantly updated, so expect to learn a little more each day over the life of a trend. If one topic in particular has been covered repeatedly in the news lately, you’ve discovered a subject that others will probably enjoy discussing.
- Read a variety of material. A great way to start a verbal exchange with someone is to mention a book you’ve read lately. Books from the top 10 lists of bookstores and publishers make great fodder for conversation, regardless of whether they’re fiction or non-fiction.
- Formulate an opinion. Know your own feelings and ideas regarding a particular subject you read about. Although it’s helpful to be able to describe facts from an article, you’ll have an even richer conversation if you add in your thoughts, ideas and experiences related to the subject matter.
- Inject topics you read about into your conversations. Use the subjects you read about recently to start a verbal exchange. For example, let’s say it’s Saturday night and you just arrived at a friend’s party. You’re looking around and notice you don’t see many familiar faces. You feel a niggling sense of nervousness while wondering what you’ll say to the other partygoers.
- But then, you recall that story you read in the newspaper this morning about the new museum your city is going to build. Most people that live in your town will want to know about that.
- Sit back and listen to others. Pay attention to conversations going on around you. Someone might mention a subject you just read about.
- Ask people what they think about a particular story or character in the book.
- Others will contribute thoughts, ideas and reactions to the subject matter that differ greatly from your own. An important part of conversing is listening and allowing reciprocation by the other person.
Reading is an effective method of gathering and storing information to talk about at the next social gathering you attend. A person who is well-read can be great entertainment at get-togethers and provide plenty of grist for some titillating conversations.
Although reading is wonderful all on its own, using it to easily strengthen your conversational skills brings you even more rewards.
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